Smarmy remarks
Everyone has something to say. And quite often the person doing the talking is under the impression that they are better informed on the topic than the listener.
Then there are the times when the talker doesn't believe the listener understands the speakers meanings or intentions. Then the talker proceeds to repeat his or herself ad nauseum, re-phrasing everything to the point of confusion without need.Frustration on the part of the listener is misinterpreted by the speaker and both parties are wondering why the conversation ever took place. But both for different reasons.
I'm of the opinion that we cannot separate ourselves from our own points of view.
Sure we can "try and see if from their perspective" but that's still subjective to our reasoning of what their perspective might be.
Say what we mean, mean what we say. And if we're not sure if we got out point across, or worse think that we may have given the wrong impression to someone..
Screw it, we did our best to express what we were trying to communicate.
I find more complications in trying to explain something I've said rather than just living with it.
Do you know what I'm trying to say? (ha)
Then there are the times when the talker doesn't believe the listener understands the speakers meanings or intentions. Then the talker proceeds to repeat his or herself ad nauseum, re-phrasing everything to the point of confusion without need.Frustration on the part of the listener is misinterpreted by the speaker and both parties are wondering why the conversation ever took place. But both for different reasons.
I'm of the opinion that we cannot separate ourselves from our own points of view.
Sure we can "try and see if from their perspective" but that's still subjective to our reasoning of what their perspective might be.
Say what we mean, mean what we say. And if we're not sure if we got out point across, or worse think that we may have given the wrong impression to someone..
Screw it, we did our best to express what we were trying to communicate.
I find more complications in trying to explain something I've said rather than just living with it.
Do you know what I'm trying to say? (ha)
posted by Brad O'Brien at 12:33 PM
2 Comments:
im of the opinion that you can seperate yourself from your point of view...decide not to give a fuck. throw-up your opinions all over your victim, spare no feelings. you'll feel better for a moment then unless you truly don't give a fuck, you'll go back and smooth things over explaining that you may have been a bit over zealous in your tyrade. much as i must do now, for the diarhea that has befallen from my brain to your page today is nonsense...of course that's just my opinion. love jon
p.s. i'm not a speller i'm a writer
I have found, in my advanced age, and through my vast years of experience in dealing with people on many different levels, that I do the least amount of damage when I keep my mouth shut. :) Unfortunately, this is extremely counter-intuitive for me, and therefore, a goal not often reached. But one can try, can't one? It's good to have goals.
And it's like I can't help myself - I *know* that what I'm saying adds absolutely no value whatsoever to the exchange, and yet...there it goes, floating, - sometimes gurgling - out of my mouth and into the communication stream.
Kind of like now. Yeah.
Oh - I *love* that you used the word "smarmy." Very nice.
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